Most people tend to push and oppose force to force. So, the weaker is always defeated. Few possess the eastern art - instead of pushing back - to pull an opponent and make him fall by his own doing - as you turn a joke against the joker. Remember that it is more intelligent to sail than to row. This reminds me of a story:

One day, as the young Nasreddin sat by the gate of the village thinking up a scheme to smuggle donkeys, a cow in the nearby field started mooing. It continued this loud activity for a long while. Two villagers were also sitting by the gate, playing a game of dice. Wanting to get back at Nasreddin for making fun of them another day, they yelled,

"That cow is talking to you, Hoça! Why don't you go and see what it wants?"

Without a word, Nasreddin stood up and walked to the cow. He listened to it and bowed deeply towards the animal, then returned to the two jokers and said,

"She told me: 'Hoça, what are you doing with these two asses? This is bad company for you.'"