At the time you must chose one, which is prevailing?
Truth or compassion?
Friendship or Justice?
Beauty or usefulness?
Freedom or Equality?
Solidarity or Prudence?
It is easy to choose between good and bad; the difficulty is to choose between bad and bad or good and good.
The trouble with values is that they are all good.
Worse, values are not created equal, there is no impartial measure to compare their merit* they have no privilege to measure or judge each other. You cannot judge all the other values by how true they are; you cannot judge truth on how beautiful, or generous or just it is. The pairs I proposed as examples are all in possible conflict. Our value judgements require character and intelligence, not just loyalty to abstract codes.
Most people will swiftly agree with most of the high values of humankind: freedom, happiness, truth, respect, justice, equality, prudence, compassion, courage, modesty, patience, moderation, harmony, industry and so on. As for ourselves, who does not want a happy and meaningful life, those ultimate values of humanity? This could open a generous way towards harmony and peace, a rule for the solution of conflict.
However, ask people which is the most important and prevailing in order to make life happy and meaningful; you will suddenly find in the pattern the striking differences that tell fascists apart from communists and religious fanatics from tolerant free thinkers; or, why not, tolerant believers and fanatic free thinkers . In good faith, each live their own edifice of values as so obvious and universal, the sole one possible, that discussion is impossible, a dialogue of the deaf. Values are too deep in the chest to discuss.
The selfsame values change their bonds and consequences depending on how we rate their order of importance.
Arguably, the difference between sages and fools is also a matter of good sense in judging the priority of values.
Did you ever find time to explore your backbone of values?
To pull your own constellation of values within awareness and to size up your orders of priority - in general but also relative to the often incongruous seasons in which you live - is well worth careful reflection. Simply because you want to be a free person, not a puppet or a weathercock.
Alas, in our busy everyday life the changeless virtue of values passes so unquestioned by the persons and groups professing them in good faith, that our common sense keeps unaware and we take them for granted.
We do not see or examine our edifice of values because we see everything through them, as if they were our eyeglasses. Your "obvious" layout governs nevertheless, like a compass shielded from critical sense, like a shiny mirror reflecting everything but itself, who you are, what you value and respect and what you seek in life. Your value-formula determines what good life is for you and what kind of wisdom fits you. That in turn gives shape to your possible choices and sizes your moral freedom.
Not considering the existence of a plurality of ways in which values are shaped and structured hierarchically in individuals is, I find, one of the main blindnesses making people unable to even understand their differences, not to speak about discussing them with respect. This makes life so much harder to live.
Your values drive you; if you are not aware of their thrust, they drive you from the dark. You interpret everything in their selective light. Bring them to awareness and examine their articulation, so that you become the rider, not the horse. They are moral and rational; therefore you do have the means and a right - in your head - to weigh them fairly but freely, to chose your own justified preferences.
To start this work of clarification you cannot avoid understanding that values are not something otherworldly, nor intangible; they are standards of an encounter, a face-to-face of who you are with circumstances, sometimes beyond your control and your reason. Your learned values become real in what you do or abstain to do, not nailed in some spiritual realm, not in lip service and political correctness. I would go further, to say that many values become existent only because and to the extent we practice them and thus bring them into our world.
Some postmodern thinkers (whom I see as responsible in part for discouraging moral responsibility and promoting anomia - the dissolution of Western civilisation) draw from the plurality of value systems and from their human, historically evolving origin the conclusion that everything is relative, that whatever is justified for somebody, sometimes or from some point of view. It is not true that anything goes. This is false and spineless nihilism, compare it with one telling you to throw away your walking cane because there are many kinds of cane and some people do not need walking sticks anyway. We do need these artefacts, our norms conquered their social stability through long tradition, they serve and protect us. We have a right to our customary values; scientists and visitors have a duty to respect them. As long as they give meaning and harmony to our life and societies, we have a right to refer to them and to act in their name. Human values make us human.
It becomes however justified to re-examine values and challenge them when they are used to oppress and to cheat. When values offer pretext for hate, rejection and violence it is time to remember that they are man-made and therefore they may need to be argued and justified. For the sake of being free, when people wield "universal" values at you as self-evident, higher and more important than man, out of question, keep Nietzsche's hammer at hand  or at least in your mind, to gently tap on each such value and to judge the sound. Depending on the place where they are hung, some of those bells are noble sounds but some may give an empty ding of hypocrisy. Or delusion.
My call is not theory, it is a way of freedom: your own chime, your arrangement of personal values chants who you are and what you can. As long as you respect people who differ and they respect you, this is a right.
* The precise word for this is "incommensurable".
See the work of Milton Rokeach ex: "The Nature of Human Values" 1973
[1a] To put the science of values (axiology) in simple words read this:
"Pre-industrial societies thought and lived secure in the belief that their collective
axiological projects had been passed down to them by their sacred ancestors or the
In the first wave of industrialisation, societies were convinced that they received
their collective axiological projects from the very nature of things or the inevitable
course of history, through philosophy and the sciences.
In modern industrial knowledge societies, we now know and live in the knowledge that we do not receive anything from anyone. Rather, we must construct it ourselves."
Corbí, Marià, Principles of an Epistemology of Values, The permutation of collective cohesion and motivation, Springer International Publishing Switzerland 2016 p.V
Friederich Nietzsche, "Twiligt of the Idols" and "Beyond Good and Evil"